Lifestyle Couples Contacts

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1. Why isn't my ad up yet?

Your ad (profile) is approved before becoming visible to others. This takes up to a maximum of 20 minutes but is usually no more than 5 minutes. Currently the profiles are approved by an admin team employed to look after the approvals 24x7.

2. I'm new to swinging, how do I get into the scene?

The best way to get into the scene is to answer an ad or post your own. That's what this site is all about! As this question often comes from single males let me offer some direct advice to that group - try answering ads first in the Couples for males section - always be polite - send full photographs, cock shots may not get you as many responses. If at first you don't succeed - try, try again. If someone says they are going to the Bermuda triangle for an extended holiday take the hint and move on to the next ad. For more information click on the "What is Swinging?" link on the menu.

3. I'll be in Town on x night. How do I get a really beautiful girl?

We cannot guarantee action to anyone - not even ourselves! You have four options here -

  • Use some foresight and planning and answer some ads a few weeks before your trip to arrange a meeting
  • Visit a swing club during your visit
  • Put a posting on the forum - you may get lucky
  • Call an escort

4. How do I start my own adult site?

First, you will need to give up all your other hobbies and interests. Maintaining a site is a lot of work which doesn't leave much time for other things. Remember that if you create a site that people like, they will be very demanding, and keep asking for more content.

If you want to go ahead and build one, there are many excellent tutorials on website building available through any search engine on the web.

We will also build you websites go to for more details.

5. I will be in the City on x day. Please send me details of clubs/parties.

All the information we have on house parties and commercial clubs is on our site "Clubs and Parties". If you have details about clubs or parties in your area please send them to us and we will add them to the site.

6. Please introduce me to Jane/Sue/Lynn etc.

We do not do personal introductions except between people we know, and who we think may get on well together.

7. I have had no responses to my ad - or no one responds to my emails.

This site is a resource for swingers. We have no means by which to "make" people respond to ads or to mails sent in response to an ad.

Men please be aware - couples and ladies who advertise for men get so many responses it is impossible for them to respond to all of them - To try and understand the problem we have been talking to a few of the new advertisers. They have told use that the response rate has been in excess of 500 emails a week. This means that to read the responses alone takes a very long time. If it takes one minute to read each mail, it takes more than eight hours to read 500 mails, and replying to them, even at 30 seconds a mail takes more than four hours.

Don't respond to ads where you do not fit the criteria of the advertiser. You are wasting their time, your time, and clogging up the internet with hundreds of pointless emails.

Please read the etiquette section to be found on the menu.

8. Is my email link working?.

Yes. we cannot force people to reply, but your mail has reached them, and if they have tried to respond their mail will be in one of your in boxes inside your profile.

You can see if a person has read your mail by looking in the sent box. If it is unread it will have the word new against it in red, if the word new is not there it has been read.

If they have responded, and match your criteria the mail will be in your matches box. If not it will be in your non-matches box.

9. Can you tell me where to find:

- a discreet hotel in New York/London/Paris where I can take my girlfriend? - use a search engine and look for hotels+cityname.

10. My wife/husband is not keen on the idea of swinging, how can I persuade her/him?

You cannot without risking your marriage, talk about it, but don't push it. If it is not something you both want to do, don't do it - it will end in tears.

11. What is acceptable content?

It is easier to say what is not acceptable: this is our list, not a legal requirement

  • No Children to be involved (a person under the legal age of consent) in any sex act or picture. (If we think a person looks under age we will ask for picture id (a passport) as proof of age/identity)
  • No animals to be involved.
  • No violence - beyond mild bondage/spanking.
  • No pix of scatt.
  • No mention of Rape or sex under duress

We will always reserve the right to pull any ad that we do not think fits in with the tone of the site.

12. What does ac/dc, bdsm, etc. mean?

Have a look at the "Terminology" page listed in the menu

13. What do I do at a swinging party?

Have a look at the information on the "Party Etiquette" page listed on menu.